Authoritative Reference Work: I would recomendcan recommend the Art of Community as an authoritative reference work. The book is written by Jono Bacon, previously Github and currently Ubuntu's Community Manager at Canonical.
Accessible and persuasive to people with limited background in interacting with online communities: The book is even useful for people with limited background in interacting with online communities: It starts from the very beginning telling the reader even the social and anthropological elements that bring a community together. Check out the Content table.
Practical advice based on real-world experience: The book includes a Community Case Book showcasing interviews with some of the most important community builders like Linus Trovalds (Linux), Mary Colvig (Mozilla) just to name a few. Besides, along the reading the author shares his own experience in building the communities he's managed on his career.
How I have found it useful in being a community builder: I found it very useful in being a community builder: It presented a framework to be followed, cleared a lot of misconceptions that I had and put in words things that I sensed but had not enough evidence to conclude what was fact.